*This level of detail is going to overwhelm some, and delight others. Feel free to ignore if this feels like a headache, but I wanted it here for you if it does help to understand the map we’re using.

EFT Therapy Tasks

STAGE ONE (90% of the therapy will be spent here)

  • What specifically is triggering me about this situation?

  • What is my interpretation of this encounter? Can I begin to see that my interpretation may not be totally accurate but exists for understandable reasons?

  • What core feelings beneath annoyed or numb exist here?

  • What is my protective strategy or attempted solution that automatically happens here? Can I have compassion for this, and also understand that it may be contributing to our cycle?

STAGE TWO

  • Share deeply from your core, internal fears and view of yourself (versus blaming partner)

  • Listen to your partner with deep compassion, allowing for them to have their own, whole experience

  • Ask for reassurance from the deep fears

  • Give strong reassurance to your partner