All we really want is to feel good with our person again.

Those argument cycles hit, and they almost take on a life of their own. They are so hard to get out of. It can seem like they are about so many different things - the dishes, sex, money, your mother-in-law. But really, arguments are about fear.

Couples therapy is about understanding your fears, and protective strategies, and how those tangle together with your partner’s fears and protective strategies, leaving you both stuck in those impenetrable knots. It’s about seeing what’s possible when you communicate from your heart and the underneath spaces that don’t get ventilated during the typical argument cycles.